New Life

I haven't posted on here in awhile. I started this blog to document our lives when we were adding our second son to the family. Once we found out that he had such a serious condition, the blog became all about him and keeping everyone up to date on everything. I guess after writing every day about Levi, it has been hard to jump back in. I just haven't felt like I had much to write about. We still miss that sweet baby so much and we continue to do everything we can to remember him every day and include him in everything (even the small things).

Well, I am not sure that I will be going back to blogging every day like I did, but I wanted to share our newest blessing on here. Presenting...Silas Grant Williams  He is 6 weeks old! He joined our family on January 26th, 2013 and we are incredibly blessed to have him. He is such a joy and we are so grateful for each minute with him! Here are a couple of his newborn pictures and I will post some 6 week pictures sometime this week. Photos are by Sez Me Photography

Happy Birthday in Heaven

Today has really been a day. We woke up to wonderful news that our newest niece was born late last night. It was a little emotional to wake up to such big new like that on Levi's day. I was sitting in the hospital that night a year ago laboring and waiting to meet our miracle baby. I guess he decided he wanted to wait until the 26th. We are thrilled that sweet Mila is here safe and healthy though.

We started the morning out at church. We all wore our matching Levi shirts. A few friends of ours were also wearing their Levi shirt. It meant so much that we have friends who remember our boy with us and support us every day through this journey. After church, we started preparing for Levi's birthday party. We decided to do an ice cream party because we thought that would be fun for everyone, also we just didn't really know what else to do. Levi is a part of our family every single day. Not a day goes by that we don't talk about him and we try to include him in everything. Oh, I miss that baby so much. Lots of our friends and family showed up at the park to celebrate Levi and his short life with us on Earth. I can't express how much it means to us. So many people act like Levi never existed, I think because they are scared to talk about him. The people close to us know how much we love him and love talking about him though.

This day has been wonderful and difficult. I am so happy to have a special day just for Levi, just to celebrate him and turn the entire day into a day all about him. It is so hard to do all of this without him here, though. It is so hard to see all of the women at church who were pregnant with me walking around with their babies. Their babies are all here. It is strange to be around them and know that those are the things Levi would be doing. He would be wobbling around church with them, maybe sucking on his paci. We never heard him cry, maybe we would have been walking to the nursery after the service and hearing him from down the hallway crying for us because he had reached his limit of being away from us. I picture Caleb running to him and hugging him, picking him up to get a good squeeze. And then, I am so thankful for God's promises. I will see that one day. One day, I will hold him in my arms again. I'll let go long enough for Caleb to get his hug. Then we will all have forever together. That is the day my heart is longing for.

Sorry, this post has been all over the place. Big day

Old Friends

Last night, we went to Pier Park. We were walking around and we ran into some friends from our NICU stay. This is the crazy part, there were two families from the NICU there and they had just run into each other and were talking right when we walked by. So, we didn't run into one family, but two! What are the chances of that happening? None of us knew that the other was going to the beach. It was a God thing. It was so good to see and hug them. If any mama can relate to some of the things we have been through, it would be a NICU mama. I remember the day each of them took their baby home from the hospital. I longed for that day. I was so happy for them and so jealous. I couldn't help but be jealous of them both last night. At the beach with their older child and baby. Seeing them brings back so many memories and stirs up so many emotions. We spent so much time together in the lactation center, pumping milk for our babies, sharing how our sons were doing. They were there when I just sat there and cried until I felt I had no more tears. They were there when the doctor told us that he didn't think Levi was going to survive. I will never forget those women and I will forever pray for them and thank God for bringing them into my life. Other than that, we had a great first day. We had a good time at the beach, pool, and we had some yummy food! Caleb is so happy to be at the beach and he is so stinkin cute! All of the things he says and asks are so funny! I love that boy. Maybe I will be able to get some pictures up when we get back home.

Vacation

We are leaving for the beach tomorrow. I know Michael is so ready for a break from work. He has been working so hard and deserves this. I am a little nervous that it will be an emotional trip for me. We are going to the panama city/laguna beach area where we stayed last year. I was pregnant with Levi then. I remember sitting in the pool feeling him kick. That was before we knew that he had CDH. I was so happy to be pregnant. I enjoyed every moment with him and was anxious to meet him. While we sat on the beach, I imagined our next beach trip and how different it would be with Levi. I am so sad to be going on this vacation without him. I wish I could just hold him for a little while again, no, I just want to hold him forever. I am excited about going, though. I think it will be good for us to get away. I am excited about it being just the three of us. We haven't taken a trip like that in a few years. Every year we end up going to the beach with some of our family. We should have lots of fun. If you think about us, please pray for comfort and protection. I hope you all have a great Memorial Day.

6 months

It has been 6 months now since Levi left us. It is so strange. It feels as if it was only yesterday and at the same time it feels as if it has been much longer. I know that sounds insane. The memory of that first night, the next day, is so vivid and it seems like only yesterday. I don't think that will ever change. But, it also feels like it has been an eternity since I held him. I hate that. I just was to hold him so badly. I just want to love on him. I don't have any part of him here to just hold. I can hold his blanket or stuffed bear but I can't hold him. I can't wait to see him again. I long for the day when our family is back together. And meeting the other babies that we lost for the very first time? I can only imagine. I think we are all doing ok. As best as possible, anyway. We have been to counseling. We still struggle. There are some things that are so incredibly hard. Sometimes, the people we love aren't very understanding and that makes it harder, but everyone I know who has lost a child says the same thing so i think that is just part of this journey, feeling alone. We are working through everything together and still taking things as they come, one day at a time. If you could, please pray for us. Specifically, that God would help us deal with those things that are the hardest. Because Michael and I both want to work through that, but it feels like we never will sometimes.

What We Have Been Up To Lately

I haven't had much time to blog lately (not that I have anything very interesting to say) because we have been staying very busy. Spring baseball started for Caleb and that alone takes up so much time. I feel like we live at the ball park sometimes! I am really enjoying watching Caleb grow and learn each time we go to practice. My sweet boy started this season with a very choppy, weak swing and he would miss almost every ball but after lots of practice (and encouraging words) he now swings the bat like he really knows what he is doing. He is still working on it and his throw, but he is loving baseball and that is really all I want. I remember playing softball every year growing up and how much I loved it. I love to be able to watch him playing and having fun. He is so proud of himself when he is doing well and I think that is adorable. Other than baseball, I started making hand stamped jewelry and I am loving it! It keeps me busy. You can see some of my stuff at facebook.com/olivetreecreations. Michael has been so bust at work. He runs a grocery store and they are incredibly short staffed right now so he is at work pretty much every day. we are just taking things one day at a time because you never know what the next day will bring. Some days are ok and some are harder than ever. I think grief is a cycle because it seems to go around and around through the same emotions with a surprise every now and then. We will keep taking life as it comes and we will always try to be strong and the best parents we can for Caleb. If anyone still reads this blog, we always appreciate your prayers for us.

Six Months

It has been six months since I gave birth to my precious Levi. Oh, how I wish I could be taking his 6-month-pictures. I wonder if he would be sitting up at this point. I was sitting at Caleb's baseball game earlier today just wishing I could hold him. I see everyone else with their babies. Strollers everywhere. New babies and older babies. I see babies that are the age he would be now and babies the age he was when he left us. My arms feel so empty. I wish he was snuggled up to me under a blanket. I see everyone else with their children all around them and I can only imagine how amazing that reality must me. I am so jealous of those who walk around with their entire crew in tow. For a moment, I can close my eyes and imagine how wonderful it would be.

Back to reality...I am so thankful for the time we had with Levi. I am so thankful for each day with my Caleb. He is an amazing gift and I feel incredibly blessed that God chose me to be his mom. Although our days are so painful so much of the time, I will not take my big boy for granted. We include Levi in our family every day the best we can, but it is so important to me that Caleb knows just how much he is loved. It is hard to have so much love for your children but one of them not be here. It is very hard to explain. My heart hurts and I long to hold him again, but we keep going and do what we can to cope with every day. I want Caleb to grow up knowing as much love as possible from us. I don't believe it is possible to love my boys any more.

Funeral

I went to a funeral today. It was my first since we had Levi's service. Thank God, it was not for a child. I did not want to go, to be completely honest. I guess no one really wants to go. The funeral was for the mother of a couple who I care for deeply and consider true friends. I was so sad for them. I remember my dad's funeral when I was a teenager and it was just awful. I hope that I don't lose my mom for a long time. Even though this woman was older (71) I can only imagine it must be just terrible to lose your mother. I am kind of off track though. I wanted to write about attending a funeral. No one likes to do it, but if you are close to someone who loses a loved one, and you consider going to the funeral, please go. It means so much. I know that it meant so much to me to see people at Levi's. At least to me, it shows that they care and that they love you and your loved one. I know this is a random post, but it was on my mind because it was very hard for me to go today. This world is just too much, I long for the day that our Savior comes back and takes us home!

Blessings

I heard this song today on the radio for only the second time since Levi's service. We chose this song along with a few others for the service. The last part of the song is just so true. I am as emotional hearing this today as I was on October 18th.

Wow...



...that pain reminds this heart

That this is not, this is not our home.

It's not our home.

What if my greatest disappointments
Or the aching of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst
This world can't satisfy?

And what if trials of this life
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
Are Your mercies in disguise?

What I Am Working On Right Now

I had a meeting yesterday with a friend and our minister of education at our church. We are in the process of starting a community group for bereaved mothers. We are still working out all of the details but I hope that it turns into something amazing. I have looked around and have not found another group like this in the area. We are setting it up differently than many other groups that would be considered "grief support". There is so much more to this group. We are still working out all of the details and how we want everything to go exactly, but I am very excited about this! The plan is to finish getting everything planned and set up and I hope for the group to start sometime in March.

I am a little overwhelmed thinking about this group, but God has clearly led me to take this step. I know that He will show me what I need to do with the group and I pray that I will be open to letting Him use me in whatever way He sees fit. I am stepping out of my comfort zone a little, so I hope that this group is a blessing to others and brings glory to God! Please be in prayer for the group, for wisdom and courage for me and for Loni (my friend who will be working on this with me) as we continue with the planning and preparation.